The Main Lesson to Learn

When you write an ethical will or a personal history, let the words flow from your heart to the hearts of those who will hear or read them. This is the main lesson to remember. You are not writing a literary treatise. You are not writing for the eyes of a scrupulous editor prior to publication. You are writing about your deepest experiences, feelings and values: things that you want your children, your grandchildren and their children’s children to know. Write so they will not-forget-you. More importantly, write so they will learn and grow on the experience and wisdom of your years.

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